Real Client: Tess
Tell us your story! Why did you want to do a boudoir session?
I had done a boudoir session two years ago as a 30th birthday present to myself. I was newly single after a relationship of 11 years and wanted to capture a period of rebirth in my life. It was such an overwhelmingly positive experience that I decided to book another one. I booked it under the pretense of using it as a way to motivate myself to get into great shape. The funny thing is, I felt the same way the first time around and hadn’t met my goal, but was so happy with my pictures anyway. This time around health issues caused my weight to go the other way – not what I had been hoping to capture, but I decided to just go for it anyway.
I’m so happy I did because it taught me such a powerful lesson – you can be sexy no matter what, it’s not about size or weight, or hitting a goal, it’s about confidence and owning who you are at any given moment in time, and I am so grateful that I got to own my sexy at a time when I felt less that confident. It proved to me that we’re all in our own heads too much and following unattainable goals, and I know it can go the other way, and women wish they were curvier – I’m just happy for the experience to feel sexy in my own skin.
“You can be sexy no matter what. It’s not about size or weight, or hitting a goal, it’s about confidence and owning who you are at any given moment in time.”
To prepare I just told myself to be myself! (And drank some extra water and moisturized – things I hope I continue to do extra of anyway!)
Would you offer any advice to other women who are considering doing a boudoir shoot?
Yes! I encourage all of my friends to do one! My advice is to just do it, get out of your comfort zone, embrace your sexy self, and have fun! You will not regret it.
I feel awesome. Your coached the whole way through, and you really don’t have any time to think or feel self conscious.
Sexy to me means joy and confidence. If you are happy from within it radiates without and that is sexy. And even if you’re feeling a bit like you’re lacking self confidence, I encourage you to test yourself, do this just for you, and you’ll be amazed how good it feels to own it.
“Both of my sessions gave me a boost in self-confidence, but also caused me to be self reflective and less harsh on myself.”
Both of my sessions gave me a boost in self-confidence, but also caused me to be self reflective and less harsh on myself. I still have goals and want to be the best I can be, but I am happy to know how I am in this moment of time rocks, too! We can’t go back to our bodies 10 years ago, and we don’t know where we’ll be in 5 years – life doesn’t allow us to plan, and can throw constant curveballs. So even though I thought I would be in a different place for my second shoot, a “fitter, skinnier” place, I’m so thankful that I did it because I’m happy and feeling sexy in my current place, and all that matters is that is good enough for me!
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