Fuck you, body shame
As we go barreling into summer, there are so many headlines screaming to “Get Bikini Ready!” or “Lose that belly fat for summer now!!” that I just have to shake my head in disgust. While there have been some strides toward body positivity on many fronts, there is still such a pervasive culture of body shaming everywhere we look it can be very hard to escape. No, impossible to escape.
It’s no wonder according to a recent survey that 93 percent of women and 83 percent of men reported being body shamed.
Those numbers are way closer together than I would have guessed. I hate that men deal with this crap, too, but it’s the women who tend to get more consistent messages of why they should feel ashamed of their bodies. In this study, the researchers concluded “that this was because, as a culture, it’s more acceptable to comment on a woman’s body whether she’s 14 years old or 84 years old, while men are deemed ‘just fine’ throughout their lives.”
MORE ACCEPTABLE. Our culture thinks it owns women’s bodies. Don’t even get me started on all the ways.
“Many of us struggle with body acceptance and I unfortunately am no exception to this problem. I had to work really hard mentally to accept my body and let go of my extreme expectations around my body image. I had to love the fact that I no longer had visible abs and that my booty wasn’t as ‘high and tight’ as it was a year prior.” ~Lindsay Rae
Perhaps that’s why it’s so common to see lists like “What not to wear after 30” that tell women what they should and should not put on their bodies. As if it is anyone’s business what clothes I want to put on my 41-year old ass.
You know what, I am so done with all the body shame we put ourselves through. It’s one of the reasons I’m a proponent of using photoshop to enhance but not disfigure. It’s also why I want you to wear the bathing suit you want. Show your arms! Even if they’re not “perfect.”
“For a long time, I never felt beautiful enough or comfortable in my own skin. Too awkward. Was told to never smile because I was too ugly. By the time I hit 30 all that crap went away. I wanted to celebrate the way I am in my own skin and what better way to do that than in a boudoir photoshoot.” ~Deidre
There is too much fun waiting to be had for you to waste your time analyzing the size of your thighs or whether your arms look “good enough” in that top.
Instead, celebrate all the amazing, powerful things your body allows you to do and let go of the shame bit by bit until you can look at yourself with nothing but love (hint: start here).
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