Mirror, mirror, on the wall
Those three little words can be one of the most powerful phrases in the English language: “I love you.” And you have no doubt said it, and meant it, hundreds if not thousands of times over your lifetime. You’ve probably said it to your parents, your friends, boyfriends or girlfriends and perhaps your kids… but have you ever said, “I love you” to the most important person of all… to you?
The way we speak to ourselves is crucially important.
I saw on a friend’s Instagram the other day a photo that said, “If speaking kindly to plants helps them grow, imagine what speaking kindly to humans can do.” Yes, yes, YESSSSS to this. You have heard about the studies on speaking to plants, right? If you speak kindly to plants (and this has also been shown with things other than plants – even cooked rice), they flourish. They grow faster and taller. If you ignore them, they don’t do nearly as well. And, this is the super interesting part, if you say cruel things to them, they wither. They stay smaller. They don’t thrive.
If speaking kindly to plants helps them grow, imagine what speaking kindly to humans can do.
How many cruel things do you say to yourself in the course of one day? And cruel doesn’t have to be mean and nasty like, “I’m awful at that.” It can be in the slightest thought like, “I probably can’t do it” or I’m just not a happy person” or the most dangerous, “I don’t deserve to do it.” I bet if you paid attention, you would be shocked. And every single one of those thoughts or statements keep you down; they prevent you from thriving.
There is a practice pioneered by Louise Hay and well-known in the self-helpy world called Mirror Work. I would love for you to try it. It is the perfect way to change the dialogue you have with yourself. It’s incredibly simple: just look in the mirror and talk to yourself. Sounds silly right? It definitely feels silly the first time (or first dozen times) you do it, but it totally works. You can try it out right now:
To start with, just look at yourself and say, “I love you. I truly love you. You’ve got this.” That’s it. Do it right now. Really give yourself a moment to look deeply into your own eyes and give yourself some love. For the rest of the day, every time you pass a mirror, stop, look into your own eyes, and say, “I love you. I truly love you. You’ve got this.” If people are around, just say it in your head, but whenever possible actually say it out loud. I like to give myself a little wink, too. 😉
When you say something negative, you are AFFIRMING to the universe and to yourself that those negative thoughts are true. Every thought makes a difference, every day.
Once you are comfortable with that, I want you to think about what you are struggling with. Maybe it’s self esteem, money, love troubles, weight, whatever. Then write yourself some affirmations that apply to your situation. Let’s do one together for self esteem: If you tend to say to yourself, “I’m the worst. I can’t do anything right.” Let’s turn that on it’s head and rewrite it to read, “I am a confident badass woman who can do anything I set my mind to.” How much better is that?! You’re going to look at yourself in the mirror and say that to yourself as many times as you can in a day. After starting with our, “I love you. I truly love you. You’ve got this!” of course.
Anything you say to yourself is an affirmation – not just the good stuff that we think of as Affirmations. When you say something negative, you are AFFIRMING to the universe and to yourself that those negative thoughts are true. Every thought makes a difference, every day. And the best part is, in this moment, even while you read this, you can start changing the direction by changing the thoughts.
Your words, just like your mirror, reflect yourself back to you. So start speaking to yourself with love and watch yourself flourish.
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