Own Your Heart
When we don’t own our heart, we can’t fully own our sexy.
We risk limiting our ability to love others and our ability to be loved.
I asked my clients how they define love:
“Acceptance, flaws and all, in yourself and others.”
“Giving your whole self to someone, something… an unconditional passion that comes from deep within.”
“Caring and devotion over anything under all conditions.”
“An intense affection for another person or for yourself. Love is unconditional, non-judgmental, acceptance, and appreciation.”
As women, especially mothers, we are trained to be caretakers and to focus on having love for others — specifically, for our children, husbands, lovers, parents, pets, friends and on and on. But we’re rarely taught to turn that love inward toward ourselves. Our relationships with ourselves are tumultuous enough already.
The good news?
There’s enough love to go around, so we must be sure to afford ourselves the luxury of self-love.
Think of your supply of love as an infinite pitcher – you pour it out for everyone else all the time. When do you pour out a glass for yourself? You don’t have to give it all away.
A huge part of self-love is owning your sexy.
A Little Inspiration From My Clients
As my client Chelsea said, “The concept of feeling sexy impacts your love and relationships immensely.”
Stephanie said, “I’m able to give more love back to my partner when I believe it, too.” She told me that her boudoir session affected the way she loved her body and her beauty. Plus, she feels like she can share love more freely, unapologetically, and passionately with others as a result.
I adore what Erica had to say about the impact of her boudoir session on her relationship with her husband: “Feeling sexy was the best self-improvement I could have done for my relationship. I can walk around in a bra and panties. My husband admiring my confidence makes me feel that much sexier.”
Amanda said, “My session served as a reminder of how amazing and brave I can be. It made me love myself more. If you have issues loving yourself, you’ll look to others for validation, which is unhealthy.”
And Naomi told me, “My relationship with myself has always been unkind, to say the least. I’ve never been nice to myself and am always my own worst critic. I can’t say that I’ve ever been happy with my body or the way I look. Doing a boudoir session made me see something good for the first time. It was like seeing myself through someone else’s eyes and thinking, ‘She’s beautiful and sexy.’”
My challenge to you is twofold — one for yourself and one for others.
First, I want you to choose a body part you tend to criticize, and verbally give it love, apologize to it, and tell it that it’s beautiful. Perhaps, do this for several different parts over the course of a week or so.
Second, go out of your way to give a genuine compliment to another woman every day for at least a week.
Getting started is always the hardest part, but once you get started, I promise you’ll be amazed by how great it feels.
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