Sexiness as Something to Aim For
Is it so wrong to admit you feel sexy? Just for your own sake and not to please anyone else?
I admit it’s hard for me to feel sexy a lot of the time.
It’s harder still for me to love myself wholly on those non-sexy days. But that’s what I’m striving to achieve, and that’s my goal for all women.
As a professional photographer for over eight years, specializing in boudoir photography for seven of them, I’ve learned a universal truth about women.
Almost without exception, we have body issue bullshit. And this is true no matter how “perfect” we look to others.
Time and time again, I sit beside a girl that society would idolize, and listen to her tear herself to shreds, in the worst case scenario, or at least declare how much she needs to go to the gym.
Taking It to the Boudoir
Sexiness isn’t just a feeling for the bedroom. It’s the sum of so many aspects of our personalities that add up to create a strong, sexy, powerful woman.
I was drawn to boudoir photography because it gives women a chance to celebrate their bodies. It helps them come out of their shells, unleash a hidden side of themselves, tap into sexiness they may not know they have, and enjoy a sort of fantasy. It has effects that last far longer than the day of the photoshoot and go far deeper than simply realizing that your butt is actually pretty awesome.
So many of my clients tell me that the experience they have in their boudoir sessions was the most empowering experience they have ever had. This has made me realize how truly holistic our sense of sexiness is in our lives. It isn’t just a feeling for the bedroom. It’s the sum of so many aspects of our personalities that add up to create a strong, sexy, powerful woman.
Having a photo taken that makes you feel sexy can boost your self-image, your sense of pleasure, your sense of personal power, your ability to be open to love, your confidence to express yourself and on and on. It makes perfect sense to me that working on ourselves and the varied aspects of our sexiness will improve our entire lives.
The sexiness that matters the most and will improve your life in unfathomable ways is not the “Ooooooh look at my boobs in this top” sort of sexiness. It’s the “I am a badass warrior goddess” kind of sexiness.
Because the sexiness that matters the most and will improve your life in unfathomable ways is not the “Ooooooh look at my boobs in this top” sort of sexiness. It’s the “I am a badass warrior goddess” kind of sexiness. The first kind is fun and it is important for us to feel that about ourselves sometimes, but the second… the second kind is where transformation happens.
This is why I’ve been inspired to coach women to own their sexy — with or without a boudoir photoshoot.
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